Comments for Articles on Children http://www.articles-children.com Child Development Issues for Parents and Caregivers Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:36:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on What’s Wrong with Independent Babies? by iTeachM http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-77 iTeachM Sun, 08 Mar 2009 15:57:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-77 I am also an elementary school teacher. I'm writing from my classroom at lunch. I see the opposite. I see children that are not hugged enough. Children who are low in the area of vocabulary development because they are simply not talked to: the television is their babysitter. We do foster independance: via Attachment Parenting. We have 2: a son with autism and a daughter who is 19 months old. Our baby in particulary is extremely independant- even daring. Very social. Attachment Parenting in my experience (our son is 11) fosters independance very well. The children grow secure within themselves- they feel good about themselves and carry on this way. They also become very kind, caring children. Raising healthy, independant children can happen via love and nurturing. There is more than 1 way to raise a child and this way works the best for us. If you don't approve- then you must look the other way. Our son is doing so well with autism and his doctors credit it to the high-touch, high levels of nurturing he receives. re: When do you stop carrying them and sleeping with them? Our son was 2.5 years when he went to his bed for the night. That was when he indicated he needed more space and we moved him. Easy. We will do the same for our baby. As far as stopping the carrying? Same deal. I wear her on my back as I make dinner. I have been away and she has been with daddy so she missed me too much to be put down. The rest of the time, she is off and running coming back to check-in and nurse from time to time. She is now 19 months old and a delight. We never draw the line on nurturing and love. teacher for 13 years mom to 2, one with autism I am also an elementary school teacher. I’m writing from my classroom at lunch. I see the opposite. I see children that are not hugged enough. Children who are low in the area of vocabulary development because they are simply not talked to: the television is their babysitter.

We do foster independance: via Attachment Parenting.
We have 2: a son with autism and a daughter who is 19 months old. Our baby in particulary is extremely independant- even daring. Very social. Attachment Parenting in my experience (our son is 11) fosters independance very well. The children grow secure within themselves- they feel good about themselves and carry on this way. They also become very kind, caring children.

Raising healthy, independant children can happen via love and nurturing.

There is more than 1 way to raise a child and this way works the best for us. If you don't approve- then you must look the other way. Our son is doing so well with autism and his doctors credit it to the high-touch, high levels of nurturing he receives.

re: When do you stop carrying them and sleeping with them?
Our son was 2.5 years when he went to his bed for the night. That was when he indicated he needed more space and we moved him. Easy. We will do the same for our baby.

As far as stopping the carrying? Same deal. I wear her on my back as I make dinner. I have been away and she has been with daddy so she missed me too much to be put down.

The rest of the time, she is off and running coming back to check-in and nurse from time to time. She is now 19 months old and a delight. We never draw the line on nurturing and love.

teacher for 13 years
mom to 2, one with autism

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong with Independent Babies? by tina829 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-72 tina829 Sat, 07 Mar 2009 13:30:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-72 I do co-sleep with my son, but I don't think that you are a bad mom! I think it's the mother's/parent's decision to do what they believe is best for their family! Co-sleeping works for us, so that's great. As long as you are doing what's best for your child and family, I say more power to you! During the day, my son plays on his playmat and in his play pen by himself (with me in the room watching, of course). I see your point, some people can be very judgemental. I do co-sleep with my son, but I don't think that you are a bad mom! I think it's the mother's/parent's decision to do what they believe is best for their family! Co-sleeping works for us, so that's great. As long as you are doing what's best for your child and family, I say more power to you! During the day, my son plays on his playmat and in his play pen by himself (with me in the room watching, of course). I see your point, some people can be very judgemental.

]]> Comment on Faster Potty Training for Girls? by Meemi http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-105 Meemi Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:47:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-105 I agree with the panty shopping trip. My daughter loved the frills and pretty colors. I agree with the panty shopping trip. My daughter loved the frills and pretty colors.

]]> Comment on Faster Potty Training for Girls? by lil' miss http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-104 lil' miss Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:24:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-104 I had a hard time getting my daughter trained. I took her shopping with me and explained to her that she would pick out your own big girl panties and the potty chair of her choice. I took her to the store, where she picked out a new potty, only it wasn't a chair at all, it was just a seat which fit on our standard one. That made her happy and it had the advantage that we didn't need to "train her again" when she was too big for the little potty chair. Good luck! I had a hard time getting my daughter trained. I took her shopping with me and explained to her that she would pick out your own big girl panties and the potty chair of her choice. I took her to the store, where she picked out a new potty, only it wasn't a chair at all, it was just a seat which fit on our standard one. That made her happy and it had the advantage that we didn’t need to “train her again” when she was too big for the little potty chair. Good luck!

]]> Comment on Faster Potty Training for Girls? by royalruby72 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-103 royalruby72 Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:54:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-103 Take her shopping for pretty "big girl" panties and let her pick out her favorites. Then, tell her that she can only wear them if she can keep them clean and dry. Children need incentives to work for, just like adults. If she has an accident, don't make a big deal about how she isn't old enough to wear such special panties. Just wash them and put them where she can see them, but not wear them. Let her wait a day or two, then tell her she can try again, if she wants. If it's her decision she will be more motivated to succeed. It worked for my daughter. When she picked them out, she wanted to wear them immediately. When confronted with the option of taking time to go potty in the bathroom and keeping her panties, or having to wear "baby pants", she potty trained real fast! Then again, she was ready. Take her shopping for pretty "big girl" panties and let her pick out her favorites. Then, tell her that she can only wear them if she can keep them clean and dry. Children need incentives to work for, just like adults. If she has an accident, don’t make a big deal about how she isn't old enough to wear such special panties. Just wash them and put them where she can see them, but not wear them. Let her wait a day or two, then tell her she can try again, if she wants. If it’s her decision she will be more motivated to succeed. It worked for my daughter. When she picked them out, she wanted to wear them immediately. When confronted with the option of taking time to go potty in the bathroom and keeping her panties, or having to wear "baby pants", she potty trained real fast! Then again, she was ready.

]]> Comment on Faster Potty Training for Girls? by jennyedoll http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-101 jennyedoll Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:04:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-101 Don't stress, when she's ready, she'll do it. If you have a young friend or cousin that she looks up show her, that can really help. When I thought my daughter was ready, I just took off her diaper that morning and said now we go in the potty. She's only had 2 accidents in the past 2 months. Good luck. Don't stress, when she's ready, she'll do it. If you have a young friend or cousin that she looks up show her, that can really help. When I thought my daughter was ready, I just took off her diaper that morning and said now we go in the potty. She's only had 2 accidents in the past 2 months. Good luck.

]]> Comment on Faster Potty Training for Girls? by Ms. Q http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-100 Ms. Q Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:45:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/potty-training/are-there-any-ways-to-make-potty-training-for-girls-faster#comment-100 Make her clean up the mess. I think you will find this very effective, provided that she is ready and able. Make her clean up the mess. I think you will find this very effective, provided that she is ready and able.

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong with Independent Babies? by zenC http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-74 zenC Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:16:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-74 My babies sleep by themselves and have both been really good sleepers. My second baby is a little needier but I had visitors over the other day and she was playing so quietly just crawling around, one lady forgot she was there. Yet when we were at Karate last week (my oldest loves it), my baby was looking at another baby just about the same age and size. My baby got a bit too close and knocked over the other child. That baby didn't stop crying for 15 minutes. When they have been comforted and they continue screaming just because they can, it's due to parent reinforcement of the behavior. I have another friend who lives just down the street. She can't leave her kids with their grandparents over night because the "4" year old still sleeps with the parents and can't be without her parents. I think that's unfortunate. My daughter who is 6 loves me, loves other people, and can adapt to different situations without frustration. She didn't sleep with me, wasn't breastfed past 3 months, and had her first night away from me when she was 2 months. I also didn't wait until she was 2 to start discipline. When she did something she wasn't supposed to, she was told "no". Encouraging independence seems to be a good thing. My babies sleep by themselves and have both been really good sleepers. My second baby is a little needier but I had visitors over the other day and she was playing so quietly just crawling around, one lady forgot she was there.

Yet when we were at Karate last week (my oldest loves it), my baby was looking at another baby just about the same age and size. My baby got a bit too close and knocked over the other child. That baby didn't stop crying for 15 minutes. When they have been comforted and they continue screaming just because they can, it’s due to parent reinforcement of the behavior.

I have another friend who lives just down the street. She can't leave her kids with their grandparents over night because the "4" year old still sleeps with the parents and can't be without her parents. I think that's unfortunate.

My daughter who is 6 loves me, loves other people, and can adapt to different situations without frustration. She didn't sleep with me, wasn't breastfed past 3 months, and had her first night away from me when she was 2 months. I also didn't wait until she was 2 to start discipline. When she did something she wasn't supposed to, she was told “no”. Encouraging independence seems to be a good thing.

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong with Independent Babies? by michelleS78 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-70 michelleS78 Thu, 05 Mar 2009 12:03:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-70 There's nothing wrong with an independent baby. It's fine to raise your child in a less-attached way. Likewise, babies raised by parents practicing "Attachment Parenting" are likely to learn to function on their own in spite of it. Our son is healthy, shows very strong independent traits, and we will just go with the flow. re: "When do you stop sleeping with them and carrying them around all the time?" My son is 14 months old. He's not ready to stop cosleeping yet, and I have no problems waiting until he show signs of being ready. Carrying them around all the time should stop as soon as the baby learns to walk and is ready for some independence. I still hold and carry my son often, but when *he wants* to walk around & play on his own, I let him. The way I see it, he's not going to be little very long. There's nothing wrong with an independent baby. It’s fine to raise your child in a less-attached way. Likewise, babies raised by parents practicing “Attachment Parenting” are likely to learn to function on their own in spite of it. Our son is healthy, shows very strong independent traits, and we will just go with the flow.

re: "When do you stop sleeping with them and carrying them around all the time?"
My son is 14 months old. He's not ready to stop cosleeping yet, and I have no problems waiting until he show signs of being ready.

Carrying them around all the time should stop as soon as the baby learns to walk and is ready for some independence. I still hold and carry my son often, but when *he wants* to walk around & play on his own, I let him. The way I see it, he's not going to be little very long.

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong with Independent Babies? by Sally Z. http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-67 Sally Z. Thu, 05 Mar 2009 10:10:59 +0000 http://www.articles-children.com/fostering-independence/whats-wrong-with-independent-babies#comment-67 I agree. When my baby is born, he'll be sleeping in his own bed. I don't believe in being dependent on another person for everything, including your happiness. Not that a baby knows the difference, but I just mean that it's important to learn to self soothe, so the Ferber method of CIO will be used in my household as well. I agree. When my baby is born, he'll be sleeping in his own bed. I don’t believe in being dependent on another person for everything, including your happiness. Not that a baby knows the difference, but I just mean that it's important to learn to self soothe, so the Ferber method of CIO will be used in my household as well.

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